Cutting Ties

I consider myself to be a forgiving person, but sometimes you just have to cut ties.  I’ve already tried doing this once with the Vampire.  Last January, in an effort to purge my life of people who didn’t deserve to be in it, I defriended him, The One, and the other one I haven’t really talked about yet from Facebook.  Twenty minutes later, the Vampire messages me on FBook asking if he’d pissed me off.  And I didn’t respond.  He tried texting me as well.  For a few weeks I refused to respond to him, and then when he emailed me begging for an explanation, I gave it to him: I was tired of him hurting me, apologizing, and then hurting me again.  He apologized and that was that.  I don’t think I saw him for a while after that.  I think he asked me to have drinks to “clear the air” (again) and we managed to salvage some sort of friendship.  He came to my birthday party last year and then I added him back as a friend on Facebook (meanwhile the other two didn’t notice I’d deleted them because they couldn’t care less but I digress).

Anyway.  As I  mentioned in a different post, I met the Vampire’s girlfriend recently and thought she was awesome.  So, I added her as a friend on Facebook and she accepted.  Simple as that.

Except…not so much.  Last week he told me he thought it was “weird given our history” that I’d added her as a friend – even though history means it is in the past so who cares?  I guess he did.  I told him we should just pretend everything between us never happened (and I have no clue what he told her about “us”) and he agreed.  Then, all of a sudden, I notice my friend count goes down.  Confirming my suspicion, I went to Vampiress’ page to see she’d deleted me as a friend.  I can only imagine he told her it made him uncomfortable or said something equally as bad about me.  So I went to his page and deleted him (yes, this feels all very 7th-grade-y to me and he just turned 30) as a friend.  This time, there was no message.  I am sure he hasn’t noticed.  But if he asks, my explanation will be simple: if you don’t think she should be friends with me, why do you get to be?